• With a goal...some hot hunk or the girl next door...whatever
• Self-esteem...it does feel good to know that you are attractive...no?
• Don’t want the opposite...that’s nothing wrong with being lonelier but...
• You heard that getting jobs are easier if you are attractive...
• What are you talking about? Humans are social creatures...its innate!

Let’s look at how people are attracted to each other. In psychology, this is plainly called interpersonal attraction.

Attraction Factor #1 - Close To Heart

Take a moment to make a list of your closest friends. How many of them were schoolmates, church friends, neighbours, colleagues? Or at least, living in the same country as you are? Generally, the closer people live, the more likely they are to become friends.

Similarly, lovers may think that they found the “one & only” person in the universe for them. In reality, they have probably found the best match in a 5-mile radius!

Physical nearness refers not only to how near people are to each other, but also, the frequencies. It is very possible to have online friends living in your block (without you knowing). How near counts. So do how often people meet. We are attracted to people that we see often.

All intimate relationships started off as friend. Your best bet? Be as close as possible! You don’t have to become schoolmates or change your job (Change it if your boss sucks though). However, isn’t it nice to patron some other restaurants for variations? (The one he works at?) Or, spent more quiet times at the library? (If she’s the librarian?) Small changes like these create opportunities for a friendship or an existing one, to blossom.

Attraction Factor #2 – Talent Search

People like talented and capable people. Period.

If all man in this universe are equal in all other aspects, don’t tell me you will choose the loser, except when you are a joker. However, there’s an interesting twist to this...

Let’s set a scene.

Feeling bored, you switched on your TV. A reality show called “Who’s the most intelligent of all!” is on. As you wonder to yourself why you bothered to switch the TV on, four really good-looking hunks appeared on the screen. (Imagine four good-looking babes instead if you are a male)

It’s the final round. The finalists grinned from ear to ear at the audience (you!). After a round of questionings, two of candidates seemed to be truly intelligent while the other two were.....well...so-so.

During a one-on-one session with the host, one “intelligent” candidate and one “so-so” candidate clumsily spilled coffee on themselves. You had a good laugh and secretly decided to check out the internet on the “intelligent but clumsy” guy later when the show ends.

What has this got to do with attractiveness?

In a similar research, students were asked to rate who they think were the most attractive among the four. The “intelligent but clumsy” guy turns out to be most well-liked. Apparently, we like people who are capable but flawed, which makes them more “human”.

Who’s the least attractive?

The loser, of course! (Clumsiness + “so-so” intelligent)

If you are already one damn clever person, maybe "imperfection" is what you need.

Attraction Factor #3 – Are we in common?

You've made effort to spend more time around him (nearness) and considered yourself competent and talented if you said so yourself. But still, you are not there yet. How? Before you book the next available appointment with a plastic surgeon to look like one of his female idols, consider the third motivation.

Similar people are often attracted to each other. And why not? It's reinforcing to see our beliefs and personal interests shared by others.

Evidently, we tend to marry someone who is like us in almost every ways. Studies shows that married couples are highly similar in age, education, ethnicity, and religion. Couples are also alike to a smaller degree in status, mental abilities, opinions and attitudes.(even height, weight and colour of eye colour!)

Conversely, the risk of divorce is highest among couples with differences in their age and education. In everything from marriage to casual friendships, similar people are attracted to each other.

Do you have the same eye colour as him? Many things such as age and ethnicity is impossible to change. Therefore, look out for common interests, leisure pursuits, and so forth.

Attraction Factor #4 – What is beautiful is good

One tends to apply a partial impression to the whole person by assuming that good-looking people are also intelligent, witty etc. Have you ever met with a good-looking person and associated other traits with him such as "he must be a kind person too" , and only to realise otherwise much later?

What is beautiful is not always good! There's why beauty mainly affects our initial interest in getting to know others. After that, personalities and other more meaningful traits gain importance.

On the other hand, physical beauty is socially advantageous and seemed to be one advantage for job applicants. Here are a few personal tips:

• Anti-aging practices should start when you are "young". Prevention is better than cure. I believe in applying sun-block religiously and daily facial exercises. There's a misconception that facial exercises intensifies wrinkles but I know it works because my beloved mummy practices it everyday with me. Learn my anti-aging facial exercise program here !

• If you have acne problem, try products with Benzoyl Peroxide, AHA or BHA. I use Oxy Cover with 10% Benzoyl Peroxide. It dries up excessive oil and unclog blocked pores. Click here to find out how to get rid of acne problem fast!

• Exercise is not only the best way to maintain the figure you want, it also reduces anxiety & lower the risks for diseases. Choose activities that you find enjoyable. I love swimming.
  

Thank you for reading! Do leave your comments or feedbacks for me!

Labels: Relationships

• With a goal...some hot hunk or the girl next door...whatever
• Self-esteem...it does feel good to know that you are attractive...no?
• Don’t want the opposite...that’s nothing wrong with being lonelier but...
• You heard that getting jobs are easier if you are attractive...
• What are you talking about? Humans are social creatures...its innate!

Let’s look at how people are attracted to each other. In psychology, this is plainly called interpersonal attraction.

Attraction Factor #1 - Close To Heart

Take a moment to make a list of your closest friends. How many of them were schoolmates, church friends, neighbours, colleagues? Or at least, living in the same country as you are? Generally, the closer people live, the more likely they are to become friends.

Similarly, lovers may think that they found the “one & only” person in the universe for them. In reality, they have probably found the best match in a 5-mile radius!

Physical nearness refers not only to how near people are to each other, but also, the frequencies. It is very possible to have online friends living in your block (without you knowing). How near counts. So do how often people meet. We are attracted to people that we see often.

All intimate relationships started off as friend. Your best bet? Be as close as possible! You don’t have to become schoolmates or change your job (Change it if your boss sucks though). However, isn’t it nice to patron some other restaurants for variations? (The one he works at?) Or, spent more quiet times at the library? (If she’s the librarian?) Small changes like these create opportunities for a friendship or an existing one, to blossom.

Attraction Factor #2 – Talent Search

People like talented and capable people. Period.

If all man in this universe are equal in all other aspects, don’t tell me you will choose the loser, except when you are a joker. However, there’s an interesting twist to this...

Let’s set a scene.

Feeling bored, you switched on your TV. A reality show called “Who’s the most intelligent of all!” is on. As you wonder to yourself why you bothered to switch the TV on, four really good-looking hunks appeared on the screen. (Imagine four good-looking babes instead if you are a male)

It’s the final round. The finalists grinned from ear to ear at the audience (you!). After a round of questionings, two of candidates seemed to be truly intelligent while the other two were.....well...so-so.

During a one-on-one session with the host, one “intelligent” candidate and one “so-so” candidate clumsily spilled coffee on themselves. You had a good laugh and secretly decided to check out the internet on the “intelligent but clumsy” guy later when the show ends.

What has this got to do with attractiveness?

In a similar research, students were asked to rate who they think were the most attractive among the four. The “intelligent but clumsy” guy turns out to be most well-liked. Apparently, we like people who are capable but flawed, which makes them more “human”.

Who’s the least attractive?

The loser, of course! (Clumsiness + “so-so” intelligent)

If you are already one damn clever person, maybe "imperfection" is what you need.

Attraction Factor #3 – Are we in common?

You've made effort to spend more time around him (nearness) and considered yourself competent and talented if you said so yourself. But still, you are not there yet. How? Before you book the next available appointment with a plastic surgeon to look like one of his female idols, consider the third motivation.

Similar people are often attracted to each other. And why not? It's reinforcing to see our beliefs and personal interests shared by others.

Evidently, we tend to marry someone who is like us in almost every ways. Studies shows that married couples are highly similar in age, education, ethnicity, and religion. Couples are also alike to a smaller degree in status, mental abilities, opinions and attitudes.(even height, weight and colour of eye colour!)

Conversely, the risk of divorce is highest among couples with differences in their age and education. In everything from marriage to casual friendships, similar people are attracted to each other.

Do you have the same eye colour as him? Many things such as age and ethnicity is impossible to change. Therefore, look out for common interests, leisure pursuits, and so forth.

Attraction Factor #4 – What is beautiful is good

One tends to apply a partial impression to the whole person by assuming that good-looking people are also intelligent, witty etc. Have you ever met with a good-looking person and associated other traits with him such as "he must be a kind person too" , and only to realise otherwise much later?

What is beautiful is not always good! There's why beauty mainly affects our initial interest in getting to know others. After that, personalities and other more meaningful traits gain importance.

On the other hand, physical beauty is socially advantageous and seemed to be one advantage for job applicants. Here are a few personal tips:

• Anti-aging practices should start when you are "young". Prevention is better than cure. I believe in applying sun-block religiously and daily facial exercises. There's a misconception that facial exercises intensifies wrinkles but I know it works because my beloved mummy practices it everyday with me. Learn my anti-aging facial exercise program here !

• If you have acne problem, try products with Benzoyl Peroxide, AHA or BHA. I use Oxy Cover with 10% Benzoyl Peroxide. It dries up excessive oil and unclog blocked pores. Click here to find out how to get rid of acne problem fast!

• Exercise is not only the best way to maintain the figure you want, it also reduces anxiety & lower the risks for diseases. Choose activities that you find enjoyable. I love swimming.
  

Thank you for reading! Do leave your comments or feedbacks for me!

Labels: Relationships